There is a difference between being honest and being insensitive. If you’re honest, you might say something that will hurt the other person’s feelings. Honesty is fair, but it isn’t always kind.
In this article, we are going to take a look at 3 mistakes that people often make when communicating with others. These mistakes can lead to a person cutting you out of his life for good.
Don’t fall into these traps yourself! Learn from our mistakes and be more mindful of your communication with others.
3 Communication Mistakes
Mistake #1: Name Calling
Name calling is one of the biggest communication mistakes that people make. Just think about it – you name call someone else to manipulate them.
You make someone angry and you take their argument away from them. Then, you use that anger to manipulate them.
Now you have control of the situation.
The problem with name calling is that it’s highly manipulative. When you name call, you are saying, “I’m bigger than you. I’m more important than you. I’m better than you.”
A person should never let anyone name call them. It’s disrespectful, and it hurts.
What you shouldn’t do is name call them back. It only fuels the fire of anger and resentment.
Name calling isn’t “fair.” It’s vicious and it’s unkind.
Don’t Ignore The Signals
“If a woman smiles at me on the street, I don’t say anything. I look straight ahead. If a friend says, ‘I was wondering if you were okay,’ I say, ‘Why wouldn’t I be okay?’” ~Ali Grouf
If you’ve ever been rejected, you’ve probably come to a very uncomfortable realization. It’s hard to accept, but you have no control over people rejecting you. We all have a limited amount of time on earth and so we have to make the most of it.
You can’t spend your time trying to force people to like you. If a person is behaving in a rude or inconsiderate way towards you, then he or she is not worth your time.
That said, don’t ignore the signals your friends, colleagues, family and even strangers are giving you. What we ignore, we get, so pay attention to the things people are telling you.
Stick To The Subject
This is a mistake that I made when I was younger. As a result, I avoided talking about things that were important to me. I became very sensitive and didn’t talk about my worries. Instead, I’d get angry, or snap at people. The problem was that I’d be so focused on the problem that I’d miss out on the root of the problem.
I’d be so angry that I wouldn’t have the patience to get to the point of the situation. I had an episode with a client in college. I had to talk to him about something that I was very angry about. I was walking around campus with a gun because I was so angry. I can’t think of any other way that I could have handled the situation if I didn’t address it.
I met him and we had lunch. It was the first time that we had actually talked about what was bothering me.
Negativity is contagious. Negative people can quickly find other people who also have a negative attitude and become surrounded by negativity. Being around people who are always negative drains your energy. You cannot change someone’s negative attitude, but you can change how you respond.
We know that being positive is not always easy, but it is essential for being truly happy. All negative energy is draining, and you want to be around people who will help you get the most out of your day.
Being around negative people only leads to more negativity and puts you in a perpetual downward spiral. It’s time to see if there are others who are going through the same struggle you are.
Acknowledge the situation with the other person.
Communication is a key component of making a relationship work.
Learning the basics of effective communication will help you improve the way that you communicate with others.
To do this, you need to avoid communicating with everyone and always be conscious of your tone of voice and body language.
You can also use some of the tips that we will share in this article to create better communication with your partner.
Practice makes perfect, and with the right amount of practice, you will improve significantly.
The above mistakes will likely make you stop communicating with certain people, and it is important to try to avoid that.
If you find yourself being regularly rude to people, that is a sign that you need to communicate better.